Dad wins $30k on a Super Bowl bet, offers $500 to son, son is offended and wants to turn it down: 'Acting like he's paying my mortgage'

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JR Atkinson • Writer and Editor
Feb 12, 2026 10:00 PM EST

What's wrong with taking $500?

Taking money from a family member can be a bag of worms. Even if it seems simple. The whole premise of the TV show Gilmore Girls is built around this. If you haven't seen it, it's about the estranged daughter of a rich couple who returns to their lives when her daughter needs money for private school. Her parents can pay for it, but it comes at an emotional Price. One that she isn't sure if she's willing to pay. The whole show is about the push and pull of the obligations of money and the needs of a young woman and her teenage daughter. All that to say, there's a lot there. It might even be entitled to refuse money just because of the emotional implications, but if you've lived it, you know that they are real. That's what happened in the story. But sometimes you just need to get over it and accept that people want to show you love through gifts sometimes. Not everything is a tactic of manipulation, and trying to get us such might close some doors that should actually stay open. Sometimes you need the advice of somebody outside of your immediate situation in order to get a perspective on it.

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  • A person counts their money in their hand
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  •  Sometimes you can get so wrapped up in your own head that you lose the ability to see the forest for the trees. You are caught in your emotional baggage, and you need somebody else to come around and remind you of the truth. The man in the story had an immediate gut reaction to his father, wanting to give him money. He saw it as an insult or a way to patronize him without actually doing any good. He wondered if he would be better off turning down the money instead of just swallowing it and taking it. But he thought twice about it, and wondered if he wasn't just getting in his own way. It was no strings, attached money, after all, and who is in a position to say no to that? So he got some perspective from the Internet, which helped put things into place in his mind. That's what the Internet is best for. Scroll on to read this entire story and decide what you would've done in his shoes. Maybe your answer is simple.

  • Am I in the wrong for not wanting to accept money from my father

    To sum it up quickly... Father won 30K on a super bowl box, he's well off and doesn't need the money. Not that I'm struggling but my wife and I have 3 young kids and like most people, save little month to month.
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  • I don't know if it was the way my dad said it or just the principle, but he goes I got 500 $ for you next time I see you, acting like he's paying my mortgage. Part of me wanted to say you keep it but I also don't want to be rude. And it is 500 bucks and what kind of ass face would say no to that. But I hope ya'll get the point.
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  • So AITA for not wanting the 500 bucks and saying thanks but no thanks? Cheers
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  • Commenters wondered if there might be more going on here.

    Fit-Bumblebee-6420 Father won 30K on a super bowl box, he's well off and doesn't need the money. Not that I'm struggling but my wife and I have 3 young kids and like most people, save little month to month. Sorry but you are hiding entitlement behind vagueness.
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  • He doesn't need the money but at least he thought of you. $500 may be something you can do without but don't hide behind some resentment and maybe non-communication and not accept it wholeheartedly and add to that little savings for your young family. YTA.
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  • residentcaprice Just take the money. It will come in useful on a rainy day. Don't cut off your nose to spite your face.
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  • imjustapersontoo you don't want the money because you are against gambling? i would say mild YTA if you turn it down without consulting your wife. maybe she has some need that she's been quietly going without because she knows you don't have enough money. you should make these decisions as a team
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  • StrangeDaisy 2017 I get it. Not sure what your relationship is like with your dad, but I can tell you that $500 from my dad would have cost me a lot. Some people. give gifts some people hold them over you as leverage. NTA - sounds like your peace of mind is worth more than $500.
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  • Ps- one way to accept it without strings would be to put into your kids' college funds gramps can't leverage - you for a gift he gave his grandchildren
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  • Usrname52 YTA if it's not a pattern of behavior that you think he will hang over your head forever. It sounds like he's excited about his win and wants to throw you a little token.
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  • You sound like you want to screw only yourself (and wife and kids) because you are spiteful that your Dad is financially well off and not giving you more money. Is there something fun you can do for your kids that you wouldn't otherwise be able to do? "Grandpa won a Super Bowl pool, so he wants us all to be able to go to the amusement park! And each pick out a souvenir in the gift shop!"
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  • Baxter16-5 Take the money. It's his way of sharing something just because he can. Take the kids somewhere cool or have a nice dinner out with the wife. He isn't saying that "you don't have enough". He's saying "here, I got this extra free money and and want to share it with you."
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  • MirrorRevolutionary4 NAH. I am obviously don't know your dad, but, that was exactly how my dad would have said it. Not because he was acting like he was paying my mortgage but because he didn't want it to be a big deal. He would treat it like I left my glasses there, or he had my mail, or he bought me my favorite cookies.
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  • If you don't want it don't take it. Just say, thanks but no thanks dad. Enjoy your winnings.
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  • Sorry_I_Guess YTA, and I have to think that your outsized reaction to this have more to do with your relationship with your dad than with the gift itself. Honestly, if that's how he said it, I can't even figure out what offended you. "I have $500 for
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  • you next time I see you" just sounds... thoughtful? But I'll believe you when you say that he said it in a manner that came across as condescending or self- important, because you were there and I was not. Nonetheless, other
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  • commenters were correct when they said not to cut off your nose to spite your face, and more importantly, not to make a decision about this without at least discussing it with your wife. Ultimately, you're talking about refusing money that could benefit not just you
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  • personally, but your wife and children... money that you may be able to get by without, but that would have a genuinely positive effect for your family, and your only reason for refusing it is that your dad rubbed you the wrong way in the way he offered it.
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  • Even if he was truly obnoxious about it (and it doesn't seem like he was), he's still offering you money that he doesn't have to, and that again, would be beneficial to your family. Refusing it because of some vague principle that you can't even really articulate beyond that he's patting himself on the back about his own
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  • generosity is both foolish and immature. Who cares if he acts like he's a big shot over it? How does his little self- congratulations really harm you at all in the grand scheme of things other than being irritating? And really, why not let him feel like a big shot if it means you get free money?
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  • As someone living in genuine poverty, all I can think is that it must be nice to be able to turn your nose up at $500 because you don't like the tone of voice of the person offering it. SMH.
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  • No-Understanding720 NTA, he offered and it's your choice whether to accept it or not. Whether you do or not and for whatever reasons are personal to you. But also I feel like it's the way he worded it that got to you, some gamblers like to give away some money to those they care about when they win big and that's probably what it is. His wording just maybe kinda sucked but idk
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  • Acceptable_Spell1599 YTA. You obviously need the money or you wouldn't mention the size of your family. Or the struggle to save. It isn't his responsibility to supplement your income with his winnings. You're just angry because you feel entitled. When technically he doesn't have to offer you anything.
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